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bibbles started the topic Helping the Helpers in the forum Open FORUM – your choice of discussion 9 years, 3 months ago
When my son first showed signs of mental illness I worked 24/7 on ways to get him some help. As some time went on, I sunk deeper into depression and anxiety, worrying about my son then worrying about my own mental health and who would take care of him if anything happened to me.
I realized I needed to shift some focus back to myself and started looking for any resources to help me through this so I could be there for him. I found Fame and a naturopath and started getting back on track, feeling stronger little by little.
People with mental illness spend most of their time with their family so it only makes sense that the family has the best info and resources to know how to deal and help their mentally ill relative. When I was depressed, it wasn’t good for my son and probably made things worse for him. It takes a family and a village!
When you started to get back on track yourself, did it positively have an effect on your family member as well?
Reply: Yes, when I got help for myself and felt calmer, it helped my relationship with my son. I had a better approach with him and didn’t feel so alone and desperate. This made him calmer and more secure. I believe the help for families should be long term to stay on track and not fall back into the desperate mode.
ED: Thanks so much for sharing that. Many parents are hesitant to take care of themselves, thinking it takes away from caring for their loved one – when in fact, it makes them MORE CAPABLE of successfully interacting with their loved one. Your comments are much appreciated.